In the POJO’s “Tell Me About It,” columnist Carolyn Hax tells a woman, who isn’t sure if all marriages are doomed, that there are many reasons why couples end up divorced.
She says: One reason is people settle. They pick a partner that is “good enough.” Or they think they are in love, but it’s really infatuation, or a desire for the title “Mrs.” Or they are in love, then something happens, and one of them changes. Or they hit a wall, like when one wants children and the other one doesn’t. Or they have bad communication and it catches up with them when life gets complicated.
“There is a place for hard work in a relationship,” she advises. “It’s in facing yourself, admitting your needs, anticipating your weaknesses, and summoning enough respect for the outcome to be your staunchest advocate.
“And, it’s in having the courage to wait for someone who is easy to love.”
Do you agree?
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