Monday, July 16, 2007
Can you hear the crickets chirping on your dates?
Everyone is familiar with the HONEYMOON stage of any relationship... But not so nice is the "Nothing to Say" phase. This is the point in the relationship when:
The familiarity of the "one time, in band camp" stories makes you interrupt with "Yeah, yeah, the flute!"
It's the blankness that stirs in your mind, as you sit across the dinner table from your honey, trying to think of something to say, anything... "So, how bout those Yankees?"
It's the reason why on the phone, you get distracted by the TV set, only to be startled by, "Hello? Are you listening to me? Oh yeah, then tell me, what did I just SAY?!"
Or when you say "talk to me" and your partner responds with "what do you want to talk about" ... which never ends good, right?
One can only hope that the "nothing to say" phase doesn't become the more intense "I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY TO YOU" phase...
What do you think? Is that silence that occurs in long-term relationships a sign that it isn't meant to be? Or is a sign that you are both so comfortable with each other, you can zip it and still be content? After all, you can always bring a book on your dates...
Posted by sarah at 2:21 PM