Friday, July 13, 2007

Lose that LOSER


IntimiDATER? Can’t-date-HER-cause-HE'S-a-loser? Who exactly are you going on dates with?

When the types you are attracting have to borrow mom’s car to pick you up for a date and when he's impressed you have your own EZPASS account, INTIMIDATION COULD BE A BLESSING.

When he shows up in his boxers, cause he can't afford pants, and your designer black dress turns him OFF, it could be a blessing.

When your HOTTNESS makes his lip quiver so much he can't go in for the kiss, IT could be a blessing.

I say, flaunt it if you got it. If he thinks he’s not good enough for you, then it’s possible that he knows himself best.

The real question is:
Do you know yourself enough to LET HIM BE A LOSER and ultimately LOSE YOU?

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think lack of confidence is the ultimate loser factor... be it a guy or a girl... no matter how rich or hot a person is...

well.. obviously the richer or hotter person would have high confidence to make them even more attractive (for obvious reasons).. however i know some guys or girls who are average lookin and have an average income who come off as really attractive due to their confidence factor.

Oh and btw... there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. So don't get me mistaken... =P

Joe said...

So um, I think your blog posts are great...but are you two dating high school guys or something? I know the Hudson Valley isn't exactly the mecca of social life but cmon, borrowing his Mom's car? Really...I think the bigger question is how on earth do those who aren't socially inept and live in the Hudson Valley find a mate? There aren't exactly gallery openings and wine tastings around every corner (though, there are some if you look).

Anyway, all I'm trying to say, in my once again too arrogant tone, is where are these women in this are who are ditching the loser guys?...because, um...I haven't found too many...

Anonymous said...

I use to date a "loser" who drove his mother's car on our dates. Well, actually, it was his father's car. Um, he saved enough money to buy land and build his own house (with his dad's help)and time he was 29. Oh and by the way, no mortage! He's happily married today. (no, not to me!)

Girl who likes this post said...

HAHAHAHA!!!!
Sarah, this post is really funny.
(and thank you for your positive feedback on my last comment by the way, this is the really long ANON commenter)

Unfortunately I am going to have to agree with Joe and say...

Our resources for a good mate are extremely limited here in D.C, because this area is toooooo small!

But I've encountered guys who have put on a facade leading me to believe that they had some ambition going on, and then later told me it was their mothers car because 'they were having trouble finding work' or 'their car is having problems.'

But I whole-heartedly agree with your advice...
Respect yourself enough to ditch that looser!!!

And for all those trying to find love out here in Dutchess County...

Good luck, and/or wait until you move to a better and more populated area.

MsRebecca said...

I've dated one or 3, that still lived with Mommy, tried to drive MY car because they didn't have one.. I believe those are called SCRUBS nowadays?
no money
no car
no job

NO THANKS!

Anonymous said...

so a car is so important... is love really the issue here... material girls...

Anonymous said...

So much for freedom of speech

Anonymous said...

you have the freedom
to be stupid.

but we don't have to listen to you.

Sarah said...

This post isn't about materialism, it is about intimidation, and yes 1st anon, confidence and yes Joe, not knowing where to find the right types of guys, and yes girl who likes this post, being lied to, and yes, even scrubs.

I've always told my friend, who drives a beat up car, he has the BEST personality and is charming, but he thinks that he has nothing to offer women because he has no material wealth. That's so wrong. Just learn to be comfortable in your own skin. That's the best thing you can offer a partner.

Anonymous said...

Much agreed and well put Sarah! And it goes both ways for guys and girls.

I am 28 and would consider myself mildly sucessful...um and single. I am far from "stupid, lazy or a scrub" but I also find that because of my new car, and when they find I have a house and business, girls are NOW all of the sudden interested. What is that all about? The girl I was interested in several months ago now wants to be my best friend? I don't think so.

I find my generation to be "very single" because they all think they are too good and the grass is always greener. Out of my closest friends from H.S. there are only six that are married, two of which are to one another, and for some reason none of them/us have any significant others either. I wouldn't call any of us "dorks, scrubs, lazy(okay, mabye one or two), cocky or dumb" either. I don't know what is wrong with our generation.

I can tell you that since I bought my new car I have gone on 12 dates with 6 girls in three months and everyone of them were looking for one thing...money...not a nice person for their personality...not even romantic evening out in the city. How do I know this for sure...haha...When a girl wants you to buy bottles of high-end champagne for all of her friends, on the first date, you know! When a girl TELLS you the size of the diamond ring she can ONLY accept on the third date...you really know! And when a girl asks to barrow your car so she can go out shopping after the second date...you know! I guess the point is that it is not only the guys that are looking for one thing...and not all guys the non-conceited, successful, sweet and romantic guys are taken. We just know when we are being played and a good portion of the ladies that are left our there are out for the wrong thing. My point is that guys can't win. We are either scrubs or looked down upon if we drive a "P.O.S. car" or we are looked at as an ATM machine if we have a little something in the bank that we worked hard for.

I enjoy my car but not the negative attention. Time to sell the car?

-Frustrated dater

Sarah said...

So you aren't intimidating (as Chrissie points out as a con to dating) the ladies, you are just attracting the BAD ones, with your nice car and success... the ones who want you to order champagne (are you serious?) for their friends...

I think what Joe said goes for both sexes -- where are the singles going to find mates? if you hang out around the gold purse isle, you are going to attract the gold purse type of girl... and the same goes for the ladies. Don't go to the Harley shop if you don't like guys who ride bikes.

Doc said...

I relate to "frustrated dater". Lots of materialism out there. It seems like people are really taking the Paris Hilton / Snoop Dog / Bling obsessed media ideal to heart. It also seems that most of the local venues for meeting people are just trawling grounds for the least-common-denominator.

I agree with Sarah, be true to yourself. I've taken that to heart and found I'm happier doing my own thing and doing it alone.

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