Monday, July 23, 2007
MYSPACE: A place for STALKING
The following is an excerpt from a conversation with SGF, SINGLE GUY FRIEND, on the cyber-dating rules.
SGF: ooo! blog topic time!
what is acceptable activity for myspace / facebook sites, and what constitutes stalking?
SGF: if a guy meets a girl and wants to friend her - how much time can be spent searching before its considered creepy?
is it fine if he types her name in the search bar?
or is it fine if he searches through ppl who might know her?
and does it mean something different when a guy friends someone he only met once vs. when a girl does it?
me: hmmmmmmmmmmmm i know i feel like a stalker sometimes
because for some reason it does matter...
but men inherently have a creep factor that chicks don't
SGF: i feel like i've stalked just by virtue of having an account... but i often wonder if im crossing any lines
me: guys can get all ***EDIT*** and stabby
SGF: *feel like a stalker
me: chicks just get obsessive
trying to figure who THAT girl is on HIS TOP 8?!?!?
SGF: guys can be PLENTY obsessive
oh yeah that stuff is annnnoying
and... how many times do you have to meet someone, or how does the meeting have to be in order to properly friend request them?
is a handshake enough to search out someones name and add them?
(i used to do that... but i think thats a bit toooo extreme)
me: yeah that is too extreme
i think you need to exchange numbers at least
me: ... before you can request "the friendship"
SGF: good criteria
me: "hey, i know that guy!!! FRIEND REQUEST PENDING"
but wait, i KNOW him...
SGF: if a girl requests a guy after a meeting that wasnt too prolonged, does it imply she could be into him?