The dreaded “where is this going?” talk
According to the above article, "when men hear the words, “Where is this going?” they freeze up. Women ask this question because there’s a lack of communication and they want to know where they stand. For example, if she wants a commitment but he doesn’t want to be tied down, then that’s an issue that needs to be brought into the open. Problem is, men don’t like to be put on the spot and discuss their feelings. And between us girls, we know it’s because they don’t know their feelings or how to handle them. So instead of trying to guarantee your future together, focus on your guy’s actions. Look for the little (and sometimes hidden) signs that he’s committed to the relationship. Does he open the door for you, answer the phone when you call and make an effort to impress your friends? If so, he’s investing in the relationship’s future. On the other hand, if the only time he calls you is to invite you over for hanky panky and can’t remember your favorite color or food, it’s safe to say he’s just not that into you."
I’m a girl, not a professional interpreter.
I don’t have time for the “little hidden signs.”
I don’t want to scrutinize his every move to determine if he’s “into me” enough.
Women are often thought to be CRAZY because of this very expectation, that we are to read the signs rather than listen to the words coming from the mouths of men everywhere.
“Well, he calls me everyday!”
“Oh… but he introduces me as his “friend.”
“BUT we’re intimate!”
“Oh… well… no one would know it the way he pats me on the back in public.”
I dunno, maybe I’m CRAZY for saying it... but just ask.
Chances are if you have to… you already know the answer anyway.
(also, listen here if you missed me on the radio this morning;)