Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Who cares how you met anyway?


“Yeah, but who wants to tell their kids they met ONLINE or in a BAR?”


What I want to know is...
if you stayed with this person long enough to have kids
then WHO REALLY CARES HOW YOU MET???

SO!


That being said, there are only a few places/ways that I think should bring about SHAME when it comes to the story of how you met.

Feel free to say, “in the supermarket” if any of the following apply:

1. You met him at a family reunion. It doesn’t matter if he’s your 5th cousin through marriage, this should NEVER be brought up to your children, or anyone… ever.

2. You spent 3 months being intimate with him without knowing his last name. There is nothing romantic about “that time daddy introduced himself… in my bed.”

3. You met “at the clinic.” It’s nice to be safe and clean, but if your first encounter involved pamphlets about STDs and unwanted pregnancy, some might wonder what exactly you had in common.




So how did YOU meet your
SO?

11 comments:

Chrissie said...

Okay, okay, I'll start...

Boyfriend 1: We met in 5th grade, but didn't talk until 10th when he got contacts (I'm superficial).

Boyfriend 2: We met in college in a documentary film making class, I remember him wearing a black cowboy hat and asking "Does anyone know where stanfordville is? Apparently he had a speeding ticket from there...

and oddly enough, I lived there.

Sarah said...

What about using the supermarket excuse when you met at work. He was your boss who gave you a raise after you gave him a rise!

Anonymous said...

I'm going to log in as anonymous for this one...to protect the guilty.

The crack you made about being intimate and not knowing a last name -- I've got one that tops that.

A long time ago, I was intimate with a women, going on about 3 days (I think we knew each other a total of 5 days) and I didn't know her first name.

Okay, I didn't have her first name quite right.

I thought her name was Teresa; but actually it was Tresa -- one less syllable. (It's a Yugoslavian name.)

That's an understandable mistake, right? Who enunciates clearly?

And as to where exactly she "introduced" herself, after I called her by the wrong name? You guessed it!

Chrissie said...

Hahahahahaha!

I thought that scenario I described was fictional... but apparently not;)

Anonymous said...

well, it really shouldn't matter, but the thing is, it does. I mean if you tell somone you met at a bar, or on the internet, people might get the wrong idea. It may not have even been anything sleazy at all, but people don't know that. I have a friend who met her current boyfriend on MySpace. At first I thought "Oh, God! What kind of creep crawled out of the woodwork". But the reality was nothing like what I thought and they have been going out for over a year...he could possibly be "the one". But no matter if it's right or wrong, the thing is people have conceptions in their head already when you say bar, or online.

Jared said...

It's funny because I don't think meeting someone online has the same stigma to it that it did 10 years ago. It used to evoke images of middle-aged pedophiles in AOL chat rooms, but now everybody under 30 has Myspace and the internet is a part of just about everyone's social life in some way.

When you tell them you met online people can safely assume that you weren't just a drunken hookup and probably got to know a fair amount about each other before anything physical came into the picture.

As for me, I met my girlfriend at a poker game...not exactly an ideal spot for meeting women in general, but you never know...

Anonymous said...

i've had 3 "significant" relationships in my life (6 mos, 1 year, and 3 years) and interestingly (er, sadly) enough i met all of them at the supermarket.

well, that's not quite true. the third one i actually met at a party in high-school. i serenaded her with my guitar... courted her with my seductively sublime charm... but she was a senior and i was a freshman, so, you know, it wasn't gonna happen.

i didn't start dating her until i saw her 5 years later...

at the supermarket.

Anonymous said...

LOL, we met at work he was the produce manager... So cute and all putting everything in order... To bad he didn't take care of the house like he use to put the produce on the shelves... oh well whatever... He's a good guy anyway...
My best friend we met on the internet over ten years ago and honestly I couldn't live with out him... LOL, I guess it really doesn't matter where you meet it just depends who you tell and how you tell the story... you know??? off to drink more wine...

Anonymous said...

It was a Thurs nite Ladies nite - I remember.. was with my friends and vowed that night just to have fun with the girls. These guys started talk to me and asked me to dance and I turned them down.. didn't want to be bothered.. Well not until I saw "him" He didn't approach me or anything just made a passing comment that was thought provolking regarding something I said earlier that he had overheard and later we started to talk the rest is history...dated for 8 months and 3 kids and 21 yrs later we are still together... My kids get a kick of hearing the story of how we met especially in a bar... I get ma you were in a bar? They forget we were once young also...

Anonymous said...

Well, here's something interesting. This anon person just wrote "I guess it really doesn't matter where you meet it just depends who you tell and how you tell the story... you know???" (they didn't meet at a bar) and Sarah leaves out certain details of how they met (they met at a bar), so If you have to change or not give details of how you met, then there is something that you are trying to hide. Perhaps shame. Just my opinion here.

Anonymous said...

HaHa I just have to contribute to the supermarket love stories. We met at the supermarket parking lot. A friend and I ran a late night errand, she ended up locking the keys in her car, two guys came over to help us girls in distress. Even though they weren't much help since either knew how to break into a car (which is a good thing). He and I just really connected while waiting for the police to come. That was six years ago and I remember that night like it was yesterday.