Thursday, November 1, 2007

Plastic surgery is for Barbie

not for me.

After going nearly 5 years without the “luxury” of cable, and having never been a fan of tabloid news, I lived in a world that wasn’t warped by Hollywood’s sense of perfection.

I forgot that in order to be “beautiful” one must be tall, lean, and big busted.

And I lived with the assumption that although I wasn’t “perfect” I wasn’t that bad either.

I was suckered in to the “3 for 3” Cablevision package and one thing it changed was my outlook on beauty.

Because of Dr. 90210, I now know what “beauty” is.
And I know that it’s something I can have… at a price.

But since when is Dr. Whoever an expert on beauty?

How is a man's opinion...
one that is based on airbrushed "perfection" and unrealistic proportions...
the standard we now hold ourselves to?

I know I wouldn’t want to be armed with a Sharpee marker and an attitude, and then come face to face with someone who wanted to look “perfect.”

Because the only thing I’d want to put a big, black circle around would be the person’s head.

Not because it’s too big or too small, or mIsShApEn.

But because it encases a brain so small it thinks another person can tell it what is beautiful.

I think plastic surgery just ends in a “now what” expression when people realize they're still the same... on the inside.

And they're still not happy.

(that is of course, in the case that they can still "have expressions" after all that Botox).



vanessa said...

Deifinitely not.

Especially since they also have horror story shows that graphically express how things can go really wrong when you're under the knife.

Some people go under the knife to fix what a good nights sleep, a new hiarcut and makeup could fix. and wake up looking like freddies last victim.

Chrissie said...

Yeah! I watched this show about horror stories and some guy wanted his pecs bigger and ended up with women's implants!

I think it would be easier to eat and exercise for 8 weeks than to get lipo and take that long to recuperate.

I can't even think about getting a tooth filled without cringing;)

Anonymous said...

i think in most cases plastic surgery is opted, not to improve the deeper beauty by enhancing a superficial piece of it, but rather to remove a superficial distraction that might be preventing the deeper beauty from being realized.

call it a lack of self-esteem, or an over-concern with skin-deep matters.

but i've noticed that those who criticize plastic surgery aren't necessarily those with high self-esteem themselves.

they're just not as ugly on the outside.

and if the concern here is how we feel on the "inside", then couldn't you consider all of psychotherapy a form of plastic surgery?

does that make psychotherapy "bad" in the same connotation that "superficial" is bad?

and further, at what point did "the inside" become more important than "the outside"?

who decided that that was the true source of beauty?

i'm not necessarily saying it isn't... but it's still worth noting that our higher valuation of "the inside" over "the outside" and how we draw the lines of "self-esteem" along these boundaries is nothing more than an artificial social virtue that a group of people long ago -- perhaps ugly people with no means to improve their appearances -- decided would be the accepted social doctrine.

and ever since then, we've pounded this idea into ourselves and our posterity, pretending that humans don't need to be physical attracted to their partners, to the point where, from this jaded perspective, it's just as trite as a hollywood boob-job.

just a thought...

of course, i myself would choose any alternative to plastic surgery because i too have seen the horror stories, one in particular where a woman went in for liposuction and left with both her legs amputated.

Chrissie said...

i don't think it's about removing a distraction, at least not in most cases. it's about creating a distraction.

a distraction from who we are on the inside, or at least who we think we are.

and i'm not one to think that what's "inside counts" because of some "social construct" created by a bunch of ugly people...

but instead it's the result of knowing that we don't have our "looks" forever (if at all) and if we don't have something more to offer then we end up old, alone and the victims of gravity.

and, in light of my recent post about height, i also am not one to say that looks aren't important when it comes to choosing a partner, i think it IS extremely important but "beauty" isn't a word whose definition we can all agree on.

and because of that i don't agree with plastic surgery.

i don't think a certain breast size, or nose-shape, or hip width is "beautiful" to everyone, so i guess that's why i can't figure out what may lead otherwise healthy people into the operating room.

i also follow a "if it's not broken don't fix it" policy when it comes to all aspects of my life.

my TV is 25 years old.
my computer is almost that old and my telephone isn't even wireless.

yet, all of these things work.

and although they don't make my apartment seem "modern" or "perfect" to the tech-savvy, they get the job done.

much like my less-than-perfect body does as well.

Anonymous said...

i'm sure you can figure out what may lead an otherwise healthy person into the operating room.

because these things that people change, or want to change, don't have to be beautiful to everyone...

just beautiful to them.

i don't think that's unhealthy...

and i think that's the situation in most cases.

just not the cases you see on episodes of Dr. 90210.

and, "if it's not broke don't fix it" is a good policy.

but who's to say what's "broke"?

my whole point is that a human being is made of both an an "inside" and an "outside". and what's going on on the "outside" can affect what's going on on the "inside", and vice-versa. so improving one can lead to improvements in the other. and this is healthy, and perfectly understandable.

to me.

Chrissie said...

well YOU are entitled to your opinion and i'm entitled to disagree with it;)

TO ME: sharp objects and plastic have no business inside a person... i've been accused of being a "hippie at heart," so maybe that's where it comes from.

i can't think of anything more violating than being knocked unconscious, cut open, mauled and mangled, sucked and stuffed and then brought back to "life" again covered in bruises and forever "altered."

even if it's surgery i would NEED to survive it would be a hard sell for me...

maybe it's not about beauty at all.
maybe it's about being in "control" of your body.

and god only knows what's really going on during your hours on the operating table.

ick. i can't even think about it. (and not in a conspiracy theory sort of way... in a "haha! look at what i can make her left breast do when i wiggle my finger around inside of it" kinda way).

Jared said...

More to blame: men or women? or neither?

Anonymous said...

i'm okay with agreeing to disagree, just as long as we both can agree that you're wrong.


Chrissie said...

"blame" as in, which sex is guilty of perpetuating the idea that plastic surgery is "necessary?"

i think it's more about "society" being responsible, that we've allowed men and (mostly) women to be objectified to such an extent that we're not really considered "people" anymore.

now we're commodities.

we could probably blame Hugh Hefner if we wanted to... if only because he's been around for 80 years;)

vanessa said...

Okay, well I have thoughts flying all over the place about this topic. There are certain aspects of BOTH Chrissie and Anon's comments that I completely agree with. A few that stand out right now...

Anon- "'s still worth noting that our higher valuation of "the inside" over "the outside" and how we draw the lines of "self-esteem" along these boundaries is nothing more than an artificial social virtue..." That could possibly be true.

I would like to take it one step further to say that, maybe it wasn't ugly people themselves, but they needed something to say to their ugly children. They needed to help that child salvage some sort of self worth while everyone in school was calling them "pig nose". We always try to teach the younger generation to be more acceptable and accomodating than the last,but are constantly making excuses as to why its ok to criticize each other.

vanessa said...

As to Chrissie's comment of "maybe it's not about beauty at all.
maybe it's about being in "control" of your body."

I would have to say that is probably 90% of why I would opt out of plastic surgery.

I can't even phathom doing drugs or even drinking excessively for that matter because I hate the feeling of not being in control. Having to fight your own body to try and function normally is not a good feeling to me. But I guess that's the reason people do drugs in the first place.. so that they can lose control and not have to think.

I personally like being able to think on my own... but thats another topic.

Oh and anon, the whole inside effecting outside scenerio, totally agree with you there (for the most part), except in some cases it proves to be untrue. Look at anorexia and body dismorphic disorder... nothing will ever be good enough for them.

vanessa said...

I personally would not have plastic surgery, and would probably try to talk anyone out of doing it. But in the end it is everyone's own choice.

I also think that there should be age restrictions on having it. Unless its for a health issue, no surgery until the age of 25.

I dont want to hear any more stories of rich daddies buying their daughters boob jobs for their "super sweet 16" so that she can date the HS quarterback.

Anonymous said...

just one thing to add, about the "social virtues created by ugly people". that was only a joke i threw in there. i don't really think a group of ugly people got together and thought this stuff up.

but this stuff was just "thought up" (as is every intellectual matter). and applied in some form. and eventually accepted as virtuous.

typically you will find that social "constructs" are created by literature and art.

the works of shakespeare and michelangelo and aristotle and matthew, mark, luke, and john play a big role in forming these moral values and these ways of thinking about ourselves and each other.

it's good to take a step back every once in a while and ask, "what if their judgment is wrong?"

and, "how much of my judgment is based on their judgment?"

and even better, "what if my judgment is wrong?"

there is so much to discover, when you take a moment to consider the possibility that everything you've ever thought is wrong.

i do this often;)

vanessa said...

anon.. you remind me so much of another friend of mine.

Especially with the "there is so much to discover, when you take a moment to consider the possibility that everything you've ever thought is wrong."

If you think too much about the fact that everything you have ever thought was wrong, would that thinking thatn be wrong too? One could drive themselves crazy thinking like that. And if everything we've ever thought was wrong, then where the hell is the "right".. I dont know, it all baffles me.

vanessa said...

hey.. wasn't that Luke guy from 90210? :)

Anonymous said...

vanessa, it's not so much about being literally "wrong" as it is a matter of pushing beyond your already-established and well-developed position and daring to take a "different perspective".

for real, tho...

not like a tourist in need of a muse.