We’ve all hit the slump before, when starring into one another’s eyes still holds “promise,” but it’s not something we can’t spend the entire afternoon doing anymore.
But there ARE things you can do to bring back the spark:
1. READ THE NEWSPAPER: Sure, this is coming from someone who works for the industry, but there’s something to be said for having an interesting story to tell your significant other when you get home from work. “Hey baby! Did you hear about the little girl with 4 arms and 4 legs! Let’s do a Google Image search!”
2. CALL YOUR FRIENDS: They were there before your mate, and they will be there if it all ends in upheaval. But calling them also brings back the YOU that was there before HIM. *** Extra points if your friends have interesting jobs/love lives to discuss with him afterward.
3. HAVE A HOBBIE: Wednesday night is Zumba? Thursday is “Girls Night at the Pub?" Don’t stop these things when you meet “him,” and if you DID in your early months when you could think of only HIM then get back into it. It gives you something that’s all your own and gives him time to do his thing too.
4. NEW UNDERWEAR
5. DATE NIGHT: Remember when every night was a date? And you spent hours getting ready because you didn’t want to repeat shirts “already?” Well, there’s something to be said for getting all dolled up for a night on the town. Maybe it’s once a week, maybe you only have time once a month, but it sure beats wearing your sweats, sitting on the couch, and watching reality TV in silence AGAIN.
6. LISTEN: It doesn’t seem like the most excitement inducing thing in the world, but you might be surprised at how listening to what he says, and then later bringing up something that inspired HIM, can spark conversation between you two you thought had dwindled. And with sparked conversation comes sparks in general;)
7. NO UNDERWEAR
8. SOLO-VACATION: It’s undeniable, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and a weekend getaway with the girls or your family without HIM will make him miss you.
9. TRY SOMETHING NEW TOGETHER: Maybe it’s as small as a new restaurant, or as big of a deal as sky diving, either way, creating new memories is exciting.
10. STAY YOU: If you end up with the same house, the same friends, the same job (been there), you won’t have much to talk about. Stay true to who you were in the beginning when things were blissful, and maybe that bliss can carry itself all the way into happily ever after.