Wednesday, January 9, 2008
I fudged up flattery
Why didn't I just say thank you?
Instead, I answered her compliment: "I'm way fatter than I used to be."
Fatter?! Is that a word even?
She seemed disappointed. "What do you mean?"
"Oh, I just mean I used to be a skinny mini, but now I'm uh... " (right now, the mind was saying DUMB? STUPID? FREAKISHLY ODD?) "uh... not," I finally finished.
"You're not fat," she answered.
DAMN! Now she thinks I'm insecure.
One compliment wasn't good enough. I had to counter with an insult and wait for the rebuttal?!
I badly wanted to take it back and say the second thing that popped into my head:
"Thanks. I feel great."
That was more of the truth.
Compliments are often insincere.
"You look great."
Compliments are recycled.
Compliments are mundane.
"You're the best."
But compliments are still compliments, and I need to learn how to say thank you. Then leave it at that.
Posted by sarah at 10:52 AM