Wednesday, January 9, 2008

I fudged up flattery

Why didn't I just say thank you?

Instead, I answered her compliment: "I'm way fatter than I used to be."

Fatter?! Is that a word even?

She seemed disappointed. "What do you mean?"

"Oh, I just mean I used to be a skinny mini, but now I'm uh... " (right now, the mind was saying DUMB? STUPID? FREAKISHLY ODD?) "uh... not," I finally finished.

"You're not fat," she answered.

DAMN! Now she thinks I'm insecure.

One compliment wasn't good enough. I had to counter with an insult and wait for the rebuttal?!

I badly wanted to take it back and say the second thing that popped into my head:

"Thanks. I feel great."

That was more of the truth.


Compliments are often insincere.
"You look great."
Compliments are recycled.
"You're beautiful."
Compliments are mundane.
"You're the best."

But compliments are still compliments, and I need to learn how to say thank you. Then leave it at that.

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