Thursday, March 6, 2008

From MAKE UP to Break Up?


Where men were once considered sexiest at their grittiest, it seems that now even the more "manly" of men are taking part in traditionally female activities.

Whether it's the Skintimate shave gel in the shower, the "products" that adorn bathroom shelves, or the phrase sometimes uttered "Agh, my hair is a mess!" Men nowadays seem to be much more in tune with their feminine side.

I personally can handle a bit of metro with my sexual. I tend to prefer it in the long run actually... men with products understand your highlight dilemma and men with the skintimate in the shower seem to appreciate your smooth legs for all their worth.

But I wonder if this new commonality comes with a cost to the longevity of relationships.

Will women be drawn to Mr. Metro's sensitive side (and skin!) forever?
Or will they eventually move on to a more traditional suitor?

You know...
One who's idea of a "cosmetic" is simply the deodorant he wears sometimes.

8 comments:

jovial_cynic said...

Do you think it's really a masculine/feminine issue? I think it's just more vanity and materialism, and men following the trends that they think make them attractive to more women.

Once upon a time, the rugged John-Wayne-style men were all the rage, and now smoking isn't cool anymore, and being macho is criticized, and "pretty" men are making more and more of an appearance in the mainstream media. I think that a lot of men are as self-conscious as women, and that they succumb to as much media-imagery as women do. Whether consciously or not, there's a biological drive for men to be attractive to women, and if what women want changes, the men change accordingly. It's just the sociology of human biology.

I wouldn't call it being more "feminine," though. I think that's a cultural stereotype that doesn't translate well outside of the western model, making it a bit less-than-universal. I think it's just a peek into the male/female mating ritual.

Jared said...

You can only have one drama queen per relationship.

Chrissie said...

you know... you have a point JC.

i've wondered if the "METRO SEXUAL" man was really just the result of men being targeted by advertisers for the things they'd been selling women for centuries...

do men suddenly want smooth shiny skin, or were they TOLD that's what's considered sexy by the people "in charge."

as for the "feminine/masculine" point you brought up...

agh! i haven't got time to consider it! maybe on a quieter day:P

and i must also agree with you jared... but do you think that means that more "masculine" women are attracted to the metro guys, just to keep things balanced???

Jared said...

I think the appeal of the "rugged" man is based on how useful he is. In the past, most people made money from difficult manual labor, so a metrosexual wouldn't have done very well. Also war was pretty much a constant part of life, and people had to fear being invaded, so we needed tough, macho guys to protect us.

In a modern american city in 2008, manual labor is minimal and invasion is not a realistic concern. So what are men good for now? Well, I guess we had better start looking good, at least...

Anonymous said...

don't get caught up with definitions. "feminine" and "vanity/materialism" are synonymous in our culture. so when one person says "it's a masculine/feminine" issue and the other says "it's a vanity and materialism" issue, you're both saying pretty much the same thing, just with different spins.

i think JC hit the nail on the head: this is a genetic/biological issue. we are all programmed to want to mate and reproduce with the best genes available. men must compete for the best women. in the past they would compete using feats of strength and boldness and even what essentially adds up to psychological stare-downs (these things are all still prevalent in more primitive species). but now our culture has changed (as jared pointed out), and men must compete differently. they have to compete with what they see on tv everyday: the clean-cut well-tanned male model (pretty much every leading man these days. compare that to the gene hackmans of old...).

and as was mathematically pointed out in a post on this blog long ago, the competition among men for women is much stiffer than the competition among women for men. you ladies get the pick of the litter, so to speak, because you hold all the reproductive power and thus control the mating process (since rape is not allowed).

but i think chrissie's point was whether all this metro-sexual stuff will keep women drawn over the long haul, or will they eventually choose a more "traditional" suitor.

the things is, the "traditional" suitor is a dying breed. all the "traditional" rugged types have to compete... and most of them are going "metro".

i think this is what happens when a society becomes more automated, when machines and robots replace manual labor, and as a result the people become more intellectual and less "manly", with bigger brains and bigger heads and smaller bodies. like aliens. aliens are all metrosexuals. besides figuring out how to explore space in floating ships, aliens have also discovered the absolute peek of metrosexual fashion: big shiny cue ball shaved heads and tight space suits. it's just a matter of time before we all look like aliens. you can thank pretty boy brad pitt for that. or. well. i dunno. who invented the robot? you can blame that guy too.

jovial_cynic said...

like aliens. aliens are all metrosexuals. besides figuring out how to explore space in floating ships, aliens have also discovered the absolute peek of metrosexual fashion: big shiny cue ball shaved heads and tight space suits. it's just a matter of time before we all look like aliens.

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Madelena said...

I don't think that most men are falling into the 'metro-sexual' category, but it is around more in this era than others.

Just like women shouldn't be too concerned with the images they see on TV, magazines, and billboards, and have to realize that all of those women have makeup artists and hair stylists, along with air brush, and therefore are unrealistic and shouldn't try to be mimicked; men should be doing the same (apparently).
There are still a lot of women (including myself), who are turned off by a 'metro-sexual' man, because it shows a high level of vanity and it just looks plain unnatural. So I would hope that men wouldn't try to live up to any 'expectations', and would just be themselves. They're always encouraging women to do the same! It's important to know and like who you are, because when you do, expectations of others really don't matter to you.

(besides, confidence is a lot more attractive than 'perfectly gelled hair' anyway.)

jovial_cynic said...

There are still a lot of women (including myself), who are turned off by a 'metro-sexual' man, because it shows a high level of vanity and it just looks plain unnatural. So I would hope that men wouldn't try to live up to any 'expectations', and would just be themselves.

And I wish more women realized that that's how many of us view them.