Wednesday, March 26, 2008

The Perfect Accessory

In my time as a "single and looking" girl, I found that there was one accessory that I couldn't live without.

And no, it wasn't a fancy lip gloss, the perfect bag or up to date cell phone.

It was the wing-woman.
The girl who, like me, was also single and looking.
The girl who I could spend all my free time with while I waited, however impatiently for my knight in shining armor. With each other around we weren't lonely or desperate, we were single and fabulous... the world of men at our fingertips.

But I've recently got to thinking about my wing woman... and how she now finds herself not only without a man, but also without another single girl to pass her weekends with. She's in a place where all her closest friends are in relationships and she's the last single girl of the bunch, waiting, however impatiently for her knight in shining armor.

And where our conversations were once filled with stories of drunken absurdity, passionate crushes, and "those particular guys," I think they now revolve around me filling her in and her feeling left out... because the common ground we once found ourselves on has shifted.

But while things may seem awkward now, I hope this shift is just a tiny crack in our friendship...
One that we can smooth over with time and her eventual happiness, rather than a crevice large enough to disappear in should my wing-woman find herself unable to fly.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Chrissie, I have a friend like that too :-) It's like you want to tell her about all the great times you are having with your man, yet, at the same time, you don't want to share too much for fear that she'll feel depressed or left out. I, too, hope she finds someone to be happy with...sooner than later.

Chrissie said...

Yes! Exactly... but I may never understand why some friends can't be happy for you even though they don't have exactly what they want yet... the key word being YET!

sarah said...

Oh I dunno, maybe because a guy has swooped into the picture, and snapped the best friend out of it. (Generally speaking.)

maybe he changed her in some ways and the best friend wants to hold onto the old gal pal.

maybe her jaw flaps excessively when the subject of her man comes up

maybe i should stop here and post about this since I have so much to say

:]

vanessa said...

Maybe too its that some people are just selfish and only care about their own happiness. Maybe she liked your relationship before, because she was the center of attention. You were calling HER on a friday night, instead now, you're calling HIM. maybe...

Or she could be like my sister, who now is the only single girl of her friends, and ENTIRE family. She's letting that fact validate her existence and self esteem- which is a very scary thing.

Single is fun when you have single friends, but when you're the last of the bunch suddenly its not fun.

You feel like you must be missing out on something. (and you are.)

The fact that you dont have a man doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It just means that maybe it's not the right time yet, or maybe you're looking too hard in all the wrong places.

Anonymous said...

actually, it's easy to understand why some friends can't be happy for you, even when they aren't happy themselves.

it's because they don't really care about you or your happiness.

it's easy to understand, but most of us just don't want to acknowledge it. we hate to think that the people we consider "friends" secretly root for us to fail.

Anonymous said...

actually, it's easy to understand why some friends can't be happy for you, even when they aren't happy themselves.

it's because they don't really care about you or your happiness.

it's easy to understand, but most of us just don't want to acknowledge it. we hate to think that the people we consider "friends" secretly root for us to fail.

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