Friday, April 25, 2008

Handling love

You've gone and fallen in love and now it's not only written all over your face...

But you can see the evidence of it on your hips as well.

As we get happy in our relationships, we seem to spend less time out gallivanting and more time inside snuggling.
And where we were once trim, slim, and single, we find ourselves chubby and coupled instead.

But how do we avoid the expanding waistline that comes along with the expanding heart?

Regardless of how many times I've said, "I will not let this relationship make me chubby," 6 months and 6 lbs later, I give up.

I'm okay with the all that extra love and attention...

I'm just having a little trouble handling all the extra baggage that seems to come with it.


Chrissie said...

if we tend to pack on the pounds when we find someone... do we risk the possibility of no longer finding one another attractive?

lots of people complain that their partners have "let themselves go."
and then they complain that they are no longer attracted to them.

but if beauty comes from within, and love is blind, then can't we have our relationship and eat our ice cream too?

vanessa said...

6 months and 6lbs? Try my 40 lbs. over 2 years. But I also blame it on going from an active college life to an 8hr. a day desk job and hot fudge sundaes nightly with the man in my life.

Love may be blind, but the sex drive isn't. It needs some eye candy to get it going.

I think we can have our relationships and eat our ice cream too, we just have to make sure we make the extra effort to balance it out. Even if its just parking further away in the parking lot, walking to the store instead of driving, etc.

It's not just about looking good, but also feeling good about yourself too. When you dont feel good about yourself, the last thing you want to do is get naked.

But after enough weight gain, your partner also starts to worry about your health, and whether or not they'll have to "bury you early" and windering if their going to lose out on whatever extra time you may have had together..

The thing is too, that if one partner is active and the other isnt, they should make an effort to exercise with you, and make better food choices too so that you dont feel like you're going it alone... Not just yell at you when you're not going for that walk.

Chrissie said...

keep in mind vanessa, it's 6lbs so far :P

and i agree that a changing career choice has a similar effect, i'm sure i burned more calories on me feet working in restaurants for 12 hours straight than i do sitting in front of a computer all day.

but i just wish it was easy...
that you didn't have to worry about those hot fudge sundaes and that you could just enjoy them with your man and not have to worry about the consequences.

vanessa said...

yeah well, too bad we dont live in fantasy world.

Someone needs to come up with a pill that prevents the excess fat from absorbing into your body.

Chrissie said...

i was talking more of the relationship consequences... the questions of "will he/she still find me attractive" or whatever...

it's just strange that couples gain together so frequently and so infrequently lose together.

as for that pill though, i think it's about time they created that too!

vanessa said...

I think that your partner will stil find you attractive mentally and emotionally, but once the ice cream starts to accumulate, they may find you less attractive physically. I think as long as you have a higher level connection with each other, they'll always find you attractive, maybe just not in the same way they did when your eyes first locked and you were a smokin' hot single..

Chrissie said...

yeah... well said.

i mean, we're all going to get old and wrinkly anyway, so we'd better hope that a little ice cream wouldn't ruin anything:P

vanessa said...

My grandparents have been married for over 30 years (both their 2nd marriage)and even though they're in their 80s they dont see each other as old. They still see the person they fell in love with over 30 years ago. My grandpa still calls his wife "my honey". You can tell they're just as infatuated with each other as they were when they first met. I hope its like that for me too down the road.