Some years ago, this thought — you're not good enough — pitched camp in my brain, as if on permanent vaca.
My word blows came from a belief inventory of what I thought I should be.
My belief inventory wants me to:
Speak articulately. Always think creatively. Make people laugh. Be original. Earn respect from co-workers/elders/family. Impress my boss constantly. Nurture. Put others first. Forgive the worst and move on. Hide any flaws. Never have a bad day. Be healthy. Hold onto my childhood. Let go of my childhood. Take dance classes. Exercise daily. Eat right. Look fashionable, without trying too hard. Be fiscally responsible. Give to the needy. Stay morally strong. Return favors. Push away jealous thoughts. Protect myself from harm. And on and on.
But isn't it kind of silly to judge yourself by the standard that evolved in your mind?
When you feel not good enough what are your options?
1. Spend endless hours measuring yourself up to unobtainable goals.
2. Hang out with underachievers until you feel better about yourself.
3. Eat a pint of Ben & Jerry's.
You tell me. Is having a belief inventory good or destructive?