Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Our looking glass
"Wow!" my little sister exclaimed," You two sound exactly the same!"
She was talking about my man and I of course.
And of course, I was appalled.
"What do you mean, exactly the same?"
"You have the same voice," she said. "And you make the same faces."
Maybe it was our mutual affection for all things small we seemed to find while shopping, or our common reaction to those very things, but there was no denying that my little sister was right.
We were beginning to mirror one another in ways I wasn't sure I was comfortable with.
From facial gestures to common laughs, becoming a "couple" unfortunately means saying goodbye to certain aspects of yourself that were solely yours and embracing unexpected changes.
Considering my closest girl friends and I have our own "hidden language," full of private jokes and euphemisms that no one else understands... I calmed myself with the acknowledgment that
it seems only natural for a guy-girl relationships to create their own personal imagery as well.
But while the relationship mirror continues to reflect our new found similarities, I have to wonder when sharing becomes changing...
And when that change means you're losing the one person that got you into this great relationships in the first place.