Monday, April 21, 2008

Take two


It takes two to make a baby sure... but does it take two in the actual delivery room?

At least one obstetrician in particular thinks that men should stay at home while their wives push their newborns into the world.

And while some may say it's because of the unnecessary stress that men may bring with them into the delivery room, others argue that once a man sees his wife as a blubbering, pain-stricken conduit for human life, he'll no longer consider her sexy.

Few deny how important an ounce of mystery is to a fulfilling sex life, that there are certain things we should keep private in order to assure that lust remains a part of our relationships...

But is childbirth one of these things? Is it fair for a woman to go it alone in order to preserve her husband's bedroom bliss?

I can't imagine a woman being all too concerned with her sex life in the moments, days, or even months after delivery. Her time will be spent without sleep, without time for primping, and all her energies should be encouraging her swift recovery...

So is it fair, that her husband remain absent during the "hardest of times" in order to ensure that he still finds her anatomy a mystery? Should a woman really be expected to edit the unflattering from her life in order to appease her man's "needs?"

I just wonder if the bigger risk for a new mother would be to endure the delivery alone...
Or to risk having two babies to deal with postpartum.

9 comments:

Chrissie said...

COME ON GUYS... this lack of comments tells me that no one feels a man might find his lady less attractive after he watches her give birth!?!

i feel significantly less attractive without lip gloss wearing my pajamas, i can only imagine what i'll feel like in my johnny coat, swollen twice my usual size, and screaming:P

vanessa said...

dont forget the part about pooping while delivering.

gross.


keep the men outside, that way when they tell you you look beautiful after delivering their child, you can actually believe them.

Anonymous said...

I didn't find my wife any less attractive after she delivered our son.

vanessa said...

Well anon thats good to hear. It means you're a grown up :)

However, by the reports Sarah posted in the other thread, some men just never get that far.

sarah said...

yeah, but those men don't deserve to reproduce...

Anonymous said...

I think Sarah hit the nail on the head. Thanks for the compliment Vanessa. I think that this article is pointing out how shallow some men are who feel that women are only around for the pleasure of sex and not the reproductive aspects of it. Those are the men that are immature and not ready to be a father.

Anonymous said...

1 - is that a st luke's delivery room?

2 - no way, wouldnt want anyone but the trained professionals there. it's GOT to be embarassing! also, well-meaning family get in THE WAY of docs and nurses trying to do their job [i'm a health-care worker and dont want kids]

Anonymous said...

WOW! ... are we going back in time here? If men really have to be shielded from the trauma of childbirth there's a problem. Additionally if a man doesn't find his wife sexy after delivering their child, he doesn't deserve her. Guys, it's a wonderful experience and I can only speak for myself but my wife was never more beautiful in my eyes than at that moment. I would hope that you would feel the same. Ladies, when your man loves you, the makeup, hot dress, heels don't matter, they're nice and appeal to his visual obsession BUT, you're beautiful to him no matter how bad you think you look. So don't miss sharing the delivery of your children with your man. In there he's seeing everything through the eyes of love.

Chrissie said...

1- yes, that's a hospital room at St. Luke's. i'm not sure if it's a delivery room, but it was taken by one of our photographers, Darryl Bautista.

2- i can see how friends and family get in the way of professionals, i can only imagine what happens when something goes wrong during a delivery. i think if my husband were there, he'd totally panic, where if he weren't, i'd just rely on the actions of the doctors who had seen it all before...