Monday, May 5, 2008
What's Jane Doe to do?
Few people will admit that looks DON'T matter to them when they're looking for a mate.
And while many will agree that "looks aren't everything," physical attraction is obviously important to many healthy relationships.
But what happens when your significant other is SIGNIFICANTLY attractive to OTHER people?
The idea occurred to me when I read the following question in an online advice column:
"My husband is a bodybuilder with a really hot body. He is also good-looking, a nice dresser and quite charismatic. We have a very good relationship. My problem is that many women literally throw themselves at him with me standing right beside him."
So this unfortunate woman deals with a man hot enough to make other women sweat on a daily basis and she's complaining. She can't handle the doe-eyed stares or the flirtations, and she wants them to stop.
Is it possible for your mate to be too attractive?
Should we expect them to downplay their sexiness once they're committed to us?
While he may be too hot for his wife to handle... the real people to blame are the disrespectful other women, not his bulging biceps.
But what is his wife to do in the mean time?
Should she speak up and complain...
Or keep her mouth shut and enjoy her perfect male specimen from afar, while the other women fawn all over her big-horned buck?