Last week I was out with my guy friends and "Chuckles" pointed out a girl he thought was really attractive. And she was attractive - she also seemed smart and sweet. The perfect package, right? Wrong. She was a smoker.
Chuckles said he wasn't interested in dating a smoker. It was non-negotiable, and D. (another guy friend) agreed. This got me to thinking about all the things that different people see as immediate turnoffs.
Personally, I have no issue with smoking, and I would urge smoker-haters to reconsider. I quit for a boyfriend once and had no real problem with it. I wanted him much more than I wanted a cigarette.
Now, there are a few things that instantly make me lose interest.
#1 Nasty hands/nails/teeth. Hygiene is pretty important. If you don't brush your teeth on a regular basis I'm not going anywhere near your mouth. As for the hands - wash them. Unless you're Count Dracula, trim your nails. One of the first things a girl will notice is a guys mitts.. especially if she's like me, in her late twenties and looking to see if you're wearing a wedding ring. (Which is another non-negotiable).
#2 Lack of humor ... or more specifically, the guy doesn't laugh at any of my jokes. (And I give out a lot of chances.) I spent two years in a relationship with a man that didn't think I was funny. It was my own personal Hell.
#3 Red Sox fan. Unfortunately there seems to be an unreasonably large population of very attractive Red Sox fans in the area ... and I've dated three ... but no more! I love the Yankees and don't want to scrape up any more misguided Boston fans off the floor when they start trouble in Yankee Stadium.
#4 Excessive drinking. Don't get me wrong, I love my scotch, but if you get trashed every time you're out it's a bit of a problem. Oh ... and I will RELENTLESSLY mock a guy that drinks "girly drinks."
#5 Do not ever "let" me win. At anything. Chances are I can kick your butt on my own, and if not, I deserve to be taken down a peg once in a while. Trust me, I'll respect you more if you humiliate me than if you placate me.