Wednesday, September 17, 2008
How beneficial is it to have 'friends with benefits?'
You enjoy each other's company. You spend a lot of time together. You're both single and maybe not looking for anything serious. Why put all that effort into dating shenanigans when you could just hook up with a friend?
Because it's a bad idea.
A bad bad bad idea.
It is the quickest way to ruin a friendship ... even quicker than running over their dog.
Chuckles, D., MacGyver and I were all discussing this topic last night. They are three very handsome, intelligent and funny guys that I regularly imagine naked – but that doesn't mean I'd ever want to pursue them. Sometimes they might fulfill that masculine roll in my life... like when Chuckles will stop by my job with a cup of coffee, or when D. would rescue me from being harassed at a bar. MacGyver may come over and play Rock Band until 4 a.m., but there's a line. We don't cuddle on a couch or kiss hello on the lips.
I don't have romantic feelings for them, though I love them dearly. I would never want to use them just because it's getting cold at night.
Sex will completely change the dynamic you have. Now, if two friends decide they BOTH have real feelings for each other, that is the basis of a potentially successful relationship. But your friendship is still screwed. Sorry.