Monday, November 3, 2008
It amazes me how many people still use Myspace/Facebook as a means of "meeting someone."
They sit at their computers on a Saturday night, beer in one hand, lotion in the other and "browse" through their local singles.
When they find someone worth "pursuing" they send them the usual "Hi, how's it going? I think you're cute," message and eagerly await a response.
But unless the person they've messaged is 14 going on 21, they don't usually receive a reply... at all.
Because nothing is creepier than a stranger spending their free time reading about your favorite movies, music, and looking at your "vacation with grandma pictures!"
Thus, Myspace is a place for friends, not a place for "first dates."
Sure, the internet is able to connect people from ALL OVER THE WORLD through such communities...
But it simultaneously isolates some people from the real world around them.
The real coffee shop up the street where they could meet a flesh and blood person to chat with.
The real bar across town where local singles congregate and celebrate all things "weekend related," where they could hear a person's laugh, smell their perfume, and offer them a drink.
These meeting places allow for a natural progression in conversation. They allow for physical awareness and flirtation. They allow people to make first impressions based on looks, chemistry, and compatibility.
So turn off the computer. Get dressed and put yourself in a real situation where you could meet someone great.
Because there are certain things you'll never find in a person's "about me," section.