Thursday, October 9, 2008
Trials of dating part 3: What I miss and don't miss about relationships
What I like about being single.
#1 Checking in. I know you don't have to be a slave to your lover, but it is usually appreciated when you let them know when you're going on a trip ... going out all night with friends ... working late, that sort of thing. Right now I do what I want on a whim. I like that.
#2 Total control of the remote. If I feel like watching a lame Lifetime movie I can. If I want to flip between Family Guy and a Yankee game every 5 seconds there's no one to get annoyed. Or, I can just not flip and suffer through the commercials without a guy getting antsy. It's very liberating.
#3 Sleeping diagonally. Oh yes ... every square inch of that queen-sized bed is all mine. I can sleep on my head with my legs up against the wall if I want. I can make snow angels in the sheets. I can toss and turn like I'm doing the tango in my sleep. It's fantastic.
#4 Spending countless late night hours with my handsome guy friends. D., Chuckles and MacGyver are indispensable to my daily happiness. (Mostly because they are so handsome ... I don't consider attractive men "real people.") It is so difficult to find a guy who is secure enough not to be bothered by that.
#5 The "We" thing. Why is it so many people lose their identity when in a relationship? You become this package deal ... like back in elementary school when those stupid "best friend" little girls had to be picked together to play kickball. I need to have my own life and activities ... something that stays "just for me."
What I miss about having someone (this may get corny)
#1 Bed warmer. I miss waking up on a cold winter morning to arms pulling me into a warm embrace. You don't even realize how chilly you were until you feel his body heat against your back.
#2 Soothe sayer. That one specific voice you NEED to hear after a really bad day. That single person that knows just what to say to make you smile ... or make you want to scream.
#3 Motivator. I have had a couple great boyfriends who would get on my case if I slacked on my goals ... be it a personal art project or just going to the gym. Sometimes I really need a kick in the butt ...
#4 Peace. No one tries to set you up when you're seeing someone or harasses you about why you're not dating. Your parents get off your case for a bit ... that's nice.
#5 Sex. As in meaningful physical intimacy on a regular basis. That is also nice.