Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Cutting the cake
There are some who have dated for just a few months and gotten engaged and then those that wait years and still haven't received a proposal.
And while every relationship is different, and the gestation period for the BIG QUESTION differs depending on the couple, I wonder if there is such a thing as "too soon" or perhaps "too long to wait."
In a world where men can date, cohabitate and not marry, some argue that they are not encouraged to marry. After all, they're getting all the perks without the "punishment." They have their cake and get to eat it too.
And so, their ladies wait and wait, making excuses, pretending they're not that eager to marry, when they've already chosen their wedding colors, gown, and venue.
1, 2, 3... 6, 8, 10 years later their relationships are still ring-less and I can't help but wonder why.
Are their men still looking for the one? Afraid to settle down with the wrong choice of woman? Should the women express their concern and set an appropriate time line?
Or is it only a matter of time before their both having their wedding cake, and eating it too?