Monday, December 15, 2008
We all know the idea of "comfort food."
Warm, cheesy, fattening meals that make the winter days seem to melt away and can get us through the tough spots in life.
But what happens when being comfortable in a relationship means confronting an unexpected weight gain???
I've always had two weights, the single me weight and the in a happy relationship me weight.
Obviously, single me is skinnier. She lives off of Ramen Noodles, quick appetizers instead of full meals, and if there's cake, a bite or two will do.
In a relationship me eats 3 meals a day. She cooks for two and portions out plates equally, in spite of the fact her man is twice her size. She wants to celebrate her "love" with frequent desserts, champagne at brunch, and lots of dinners out.
But in spite of the fact that weight gain seems "common" for most people once they find someone, it doesn't always mean it's welcomed.
Much like the "after wedding haircut" I wonder how men feel when they fall in love with one body, and it slowly morphs into something new. Something bigger. Something different.
5, 10, even 20 lbs on my man would go unnoticed for me. I'd look into his eyes and realize he's the same man I fell in love with, and I may even use his gain as an excuse to have seconds with my own meal.
But if men are considered to be more visual people, are they more easily put off by a physical change in their partners?
And if so, is there a right way to tell your significant other their love of comfort food is making you uncomfortable?