Thursday, February 26, 2009
Looking in the mirror
It's funny how we are so good at giving OTHER people advice about their relationships but we can never solve our own woes so easily.
If a friend comes to us with a problem, we have the luxury of being an objective outsider. We can clearly see who is at fault, not through the lens of love, but with a clarity they aren't privy to.
When faced with a friend's problem, I would often say, "Step outside the situation, and ask yourself what advice you would give ME if I was having this same problem with my partner."
But in spite of all the times I've given that advice... I know we rarely follow it.
Because we want to say, "We're different."
We want to say, "You don't know him the way I do."
And yet we can't deny that sometimes outsiders can see our problems as if they're written in red lipstick on the bathroom mirror while we're blinded by our emotions.
Because when we're in love, that mirror has been fogged with time.
The highs of the relationship blend softly with the lows, creating a cloud over what's right or wrong, forgivable or not.
And I can't help but wonder if sometimes we'd rather be happy...
Than see the truth.