Thursday, February 26, 2009

Looking in the mirror


It's funny how we are so good at giving OTHER people advice about their relationships but we can never solve our own woes so easily.

If a friend comes to us with a problem, we have the luxury of being an objective outsider. We can clearly see who is at fault, not through the lens of love, but with a clarity they aren't privy to.

When faced with a friend's problem, I would often say, "Step outside the situation, and ask yourself what advice you would give ME if I was having this same problem with my partner."

But in spite of all the times I've given that advice... I know we rarely follow it.

Because we want to say, "We're different."
We want to say, "You don't know him the way I do."

And yet we can't deny that sometimes outsiders can see our problems as if they're written in red lipstick on the bathroom mirror while we're blinded by our emotions.

Because when we're in love, that mirror has been fogged with time.
The highs of the relationship blend softly with the lows, creating a cloud over what's right or wrong, forgivable or not.

And I can't help but wonder if sometimes we'd rather be happy...
Than see the truth.

6 comments:

rob said...

And I can't help but wonder if sometimes we'd rather be happy...
Than see the truth.


of course! read, stumbling on happiness. it's good fun. (much more amusing than motorcycle maintenance... ;)

aka the Ralph Man said...

what's the best or funniest thing you've ever seen written on the mirror in the Ladies Crapper?

Sten said...

"I've seen better."

Anonymous said...

And I can't help but wonder if sometimes we'd rather be happy...
Than see the truth.

We all do it, unfortunately.
Just like you get so mad at your friends when you watch their man crap all over them: you are livid for them allowing it to go on!
You are on the other side. Your friends are talking about you now.
Sucks right?

Chrissie said...

well anon... i see what you're saying, but this blog post, however "real" it may seem at times isn't necessarily always about our real-life issues.

i think we've all been there. on either side, whether we're settling for less than we deserve or frustrated with our favorite people for doing that very thing, the reality of the situation is that we can't know it in entirely, unless we're IN IT OURSELVES.

Anonymous said...

Isn't that like the closing arguement from the 90's version of Miracle on 34th St? "I ask the court to judge which is worse: A lie that draws a smile or a truth that draws a tear."

In case ya'll missed it, they rules in favor of Santa Claus a.k.a the lie