Monday, February 2, 2009
Ah! February! That means only one thing! Valentine's Day is approaching.
What's that I hear? People are boycotting the holiday because it's just "a waste of time and money and causing far more misery than happiness."
Apparently a few not-so-popular-anyway websites (and people I presume!) are saying goodbye to Cupid's favorite day and instead shutting down their relationship oriented businesses for 24-hours in a boycott of the love-filled holiday.
Now, I understand that "love" isn't necessarily about chocolates and overpriced greeting cards, but can we really blame anyone but ourselves for the pressure we feel on February 14th?
I remember in middle school, Valentine's Day meant $1 carnations from your secret admirer. Or from your friend who felt bad for you. Or even.. from yourself so you wouldn't spend the duration of homeroom in utter disbelief that everyone else was carrying their filler flowers proudly while you busied yourself doodling words like "KILL" and "DIE" on your grocery-bagged text books.
Sure, those carnation-free V-Days were somewhat upsetting, but didn't they make the days you actually received flowers so much more exciting?
But because of a few outrageous cries, the faculty decided that they wouldn't offer the carnation exchange anymore because it "upset certain kids."
Instead, they enforced a rule: If you gave one person in the class a Valentine greeting, you had to give EVERYONE ELSE a card as well. Great. So now you needed to give the guy who kicked you in gym class a heart shaped lollipop because it is "fair" (and of course, now meaningless).
But in reality... love isn't fair.
Just because we spend this February 14th in pure bliss, doesn't mean that next year won't be spent with a cheap bottle of champagne and a voodoo doll wearing only pins and needles.
It seems that we're encouraging children and adults to participate in "non-competitive" sports, including the game of love, and then we wonder why they're alone and unhappy.
Maybe it's because they EXPECT love rather than taking the time to work for it.
Sure, not every Valentine's Day will be one worth remembering, but can't the same be said for Christmas? Or even your birthday?
In an effort to be politically correct and fair people are denouncing Cupid's celebration because some other people don't feel loved.
But does that mean those who do have someone special should feel guilty for their good fortune?
Because if everyone isn't happy... then we can't be as well?