Monday, February 2, 2009


Ah! February! That means only one thing! Valentine's Day is approaching.

But wait...

What's that I hear? People are boycotting the holiday because it's just "a waste of time and money and causing far more misery than happiness."

Apparently a few not-so-popular-anyway websites (and people I presume!) are saying goodbye to Cupid's favorite day and instead shutting down their relationship oriented businesses for 24-hours in a boycott of the love-filled holiday.

Now, I understand that "love" isn't necessarily about chocolates and overpriced greeting cards, but can we really blame anyone but ourselves for the pressure we feel on February 14th?

I remember in middle school, Valentine's Day meant $1 carnations from your secret admirer. Or from your friend who felt bad for you. Or even.. from yourself so you wouldn't spend the duration of homeroom in utter disbelief that everyone else was carrying their filler flowers proudly while you busied yourself doodling words like "KILL" and "DIE" on your grocery-bagged text books.

Sure, those carnation-free V-Days were somewhat upsetting, but didn't they make the days you actually received flowers so much more exciting?

But because of a few outrageous cries, the faculty decided that they wouldn't offer the carnation exchange anymore because it "upset certain kids."

Instead, they enforced a rule: If you gave one person in the class a Valentine greeting, you had to give EVERYONE ELSE a card as well. Great. So now you needed to give the guy who kicked you in gym class a heart shaped lollipop because it is "fair" (and of course, now meaningless).

But in reality... love isn't fair.

Just because we spend this February 14th in pure bliss, doesn't mean that next year won't be spent with a cheap bottle of champagne and a voodoo doll wearing only pins and needles.

It seems that we're encouraging children and adults to participate in "non-competitive" sports, including the game of love, and then we wonder why they're alone and unhappy.

Maybe it's because they EXPECT love rather than taking the time to work for it.

Sure, not every Valentine's Day will be one worth remembering, but can't the same be said for Christmas? Or even your birthday?

In an effort to be politically correct and fair people are denouncing Cupid's celebration because some other people don't feel loved.

But does that mean those who do have someone special should feel guilty for their good fortune?

Because if everyone isn't happy... then we can't be as well?


Yuki said...

As both a person who never got V-day gifts and a person with a significant other, I think they're going too far by trying to shut it down. Honestly, even as a kid, I realized that it wasn't really saying anything when you had to bring in something for everyone (sidenote: the teacher used me as an example for why we should put the cards in a neat stack in alphabetical order. I had put them in a bag in some willy-nilly order...great for my self esteem,you know?) but I was just happy to get candy.

Now, I'm happy to sit through class without my flower because, well, I've got something better after school (he's in college, I'm a senior who is taking college courses). To me, complaining about a flower is like complaining about not getting a candy cane sent to you at Christmas. Big deal.

Although...I might order a Valentine's Day cupcake for myself ;)

Anonymous said...

it's ironic how often people will boycott something simply because they want it, but don't (or can't) have it.

a little of that "if i can't have it, then nobody should..."

or maybe a little of "if i can't have it, then i DON'T WANT it, and i'm gonna prove to everyone that i don't want it by actively boycotting it, when it is something i could just ignore if i really weren't interested in it."

you know... that silly insecurity stuff.

Chrissie said...

well said yuki!

and anon, i think i used to boycott relationships!!! "oh i don't want one of THOSE, THOSE are stupid!"

and now that you say it... i realize it was just that silly insecurity stuff;)

Sten said...

I don't hate Valentine's Day, or resent people who look forward to it ... however ... it really is just a day created to bump up commercial sales.
It's up there with New Year's as a holiday that our culture dictates you should have a significant other to spend it with.
I understand why people would feel lonely or pissy ... and feel bad for the boys, who are expected to shell out serious money on mystery-filled chocolates and extravagant dinners... all in hopes that just once this year, their girl will put on some sexy underwear and go down on them.

Good luck my friends. Be strong. Don't let her drink too much wine... it could get messy.

Anonymous said...

I have nothing against V-Day as a holiday, only everything against V-Day as an over-commercialized attempt to exploit otherwise bumbling significant others.
I have a hubby. I know he loves me. He knows I love him. We proclaim that love to each other (and anybody unfortunate enough to sit near us in the restaurant) on our anniversary. Anybody who is truly loved by another person should already know it and not have to prove it on a government-sanctioned holiday with a heart-shaped box of Lindt balls. (Though there's nothing at all wrong with Lindt balls, on that or any other day of the year.) Get rid of the requirement to shower your lovah in diamonds or three dozen roses, and it could be a perfectly enjoyable little holiday.
If the love is unrequited or as-yet-undiscovered, V-Day proposes a unique opportunity for clarity, but does a singing heart flower from Hallmark really send the message that the poor lovefool is hoping for?!?

Sten said...

I couldn't agree with you more, Anon. Those damn Hallmark talking flowers NEVER get it right ;)