Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Love is a choice
While little girls are taught from the earliest of ages to find Prince Charming or to settle for nothing less than their "soul mate," I can't help but wonder if we're setting them up for disaster and inevitable disappointment.
Because maybe love isn't about finding "the one."
Or even "getting lucky" as your desires intertwine with timing and everything feels perfect.
Maybe love is a choice.
Maybe love is choosing what isn't easy over what is.
Maybe love is choosing this grass over that meadow in spite of which side seems greener.
And yet we're taught to never settle, in any capacity. That settling is just the beginning of the end because we deserve better.
But what if we choose to love this life. This moment. This relationship.
We could then decide to sow our present garden. To work the land and plant the things we want in our future instead of coveting what we lost or know we'll never have.
Because if we really choose love...
Who knows how green our grass may become.