"Why do you still talk to that person?"
We hear it all the time, the question of why we still allow people who may have wronged us back into our lives, giving them a second (or sometimes third) chance at friendship.
And while a lot of people assume it's because we're "not strong enough to say goodbye" or that we're simply "doormats with no self-respect," sometimes it seems more important, more beneficial to our happiness, to just sweep old conflicts under the rug instead.
Because a person may have hurt us at one time, but they probably also brought us joy.
And perhaps more important than what was said or done, is their intent.
Acknowledging that we're hurt means looking at the reasons of why...
And most of the time, we're hurt due to a misunderstanding or due to someone's general humanity, wrapped in regret.
Should we then harbor resentment and cast judgment rather than forgive?
Or is it better to focus on the reasons we allowed them into our lives in the first place and hope that they will be as forgiving of our flaws as we were of theirs.